The story of a strong woman
When it comes about abused women I feel chills on my spine. In the following rows of this article I will talk about a famous woman named Bec Rawlings, who is known as the “the Queen of bare-knuckle boxing” who was not afraid to talk about her fears and her terrible past.
It is a phenomenon that seems no one can extinguish from this world. Abused women can be found all over the world. Some of them survive and become stronger but others are not able to overcome this situation and many of them perish in a dreadful manner.
This is the story of many women and some of them prefer to hide it from the rest of the world, but others choose to speak about it and this way they are hoping to give hope to those in need. If you are interested, then you should go on with your reading session.
After I read some articles about Bec Rawlings, I wanted to get to know here better so I started my personal research. The abuse part stroke my mind due to the fact that its description was so detailed. She confessed how she lived in a continuous terror with the man that promised her love and protection.
They also had children that lived in the same terror each day but the main target was her. She was very close to death several times. Besides being beaten she was also threaten with knives and choked by his hands or with pillows.
All her things were destroyed along with her personality and dignity. He had threatened her with her own death and with the death of her children as well.
What impressed me is that she does not look as an abused woman and that she doesn’t speak like one either. She doesn’t cry anymore when she underlines all the details of the terror that she had to live in.
Facing everything and becoming stronger
I can see the anger but I cannot see the fear anymore. She admits that some wounds will never heal completely and that she did not recovered as fast as many people might think. Once she got out from that toxic marriage and saved herself, years after that she slept with fear and she couldn’t bare the touch of another person on her skin.
She underlines all these things so women who might be in similar situation will understand that it is perfectly normal to feel this way. Day by day things will get better but it requires time but she also say that no woman will be able to completely forget that part of their lives. To be able to have a normal life you need to see yourself as a survivor and have faith.
Her story will be able to help other women in similar situations to understand that they are strong and that their strength lays inside of them.
The after feelings
If there is one thing that she regrets is that she never pressed charges against him. She doesn’t feel sorry because she did not revenged herself, but because after she ended the relationship, he continued to do the same things to other women who did pressed charges and won the battle in court.
If she would have done what they did, those women will never got abused by the same man known in the MMA world as a sportive.
Her kids gave her the strength and the courage to leave her home and that so-called husband. She admits that if she didn’t had the children she wouldn’t have the courage to do it, because this type of relationship degrades a woman physically and mentally in the same manner.
She could stand the abuse over her but once her children got involved her mother instinct overcome the fear and made her understand that she had to take some action in order to save them if she cannot save herself.
She also explains how this man as well as other men like him operates. First everything is beautiful and you feel protected. The first thing they will try to damage is your mind and your way of thinking about yourself. They take you away slowly from your family and from your friends.
After he knows that you are completely alone, then the abuse starts, first with an accidental hit on your face and in a short while you will end up with no pride, with no one there to protect you. You will be alone and feel abandoned by everyone. You will be humiliated and your body will be damaged daily.
You will forget your value and you will feel weak. This is their purpose and a man like that usually succeeds to make you feel this way. If he will see any sign of rebellion he will threat you with everything that you hold dear.
The main target will be your family and your friends. Besides that, he will never admit that he did such a thing. Even in this case and even if there were other similar allegations against him that were proven and he got convicted for them, he denies that he ever hurt Bec Rawlings and that he never intended or said that he will hurt the children in any way. He considers himself a victim juts as she did.
The first mistake that he did and what helped her regain her strength and power on herself was introducing her to MMA world. Today she feels strong and healthy. She became famous in this world and helped her dominate this world.
She said that all the things that made her suffer so much in the past helped in the end to achieve what she did in the MMA world. Now, fighting against other people has a purpose and she knows that no one could ever put her through what she was putted through in the past. She regained her trust in her abilities to defend herself.
Bec certainly regrets this experience in her life but now she feels more powerful than ever and she knows that her value and pride will never be taken away from her again by any man.
Moreover, she created a name for herself in this sport and even if her stature did not helped her too much, the way she could handle the pain caused by all those hits received made her a powerful adversary. She also improved here fighting skills so she could put down an adversary quite easily. All her trainers consider that she always had this talent of fighting.
She never forgot to be a mom and she never neglected her children. They are still young now but they are more than proud of their mother’ achievements. All her experiences in this life are printed on her skin. When you see her, the tattoos from her body speak for her before she will open her mouth.