First time dad
Becoming a father is the best part of life for most men. However, how men handle this stage of their lives differs. That’s particularly when they realize that all the tips they get are not quite matching the reality.
All the advice we receive is wonderful and is given with the best intention of helping, but the truth is that being a parent is the greatest experience any human being can imagine. So any advice will fall short for everything you are about to experience.
However, I leave you with the promised 5 things that surely nobody warns you when you become a father.
You will still have time for yourself
Of course, you will have free time for yourself. It is not so true that there is no time to dedicate to yourself, or that you will not have a chance to even look in the mirror. Although it happened to some men, that’s not a rule.
Certainly, being a dad demands full attention, from birth to adulthood and surely forever. But you can split that time with the mother of your baby. Talk to your partner and establish a schedule so that both of you will have enough free time.
There is time to take care of yourself and live an active social life. Working and partying will continue to be part of your life if you wish.
The thing is that you will have a little less energy than before and surely, you will prefer to stay home, order food, and rest from busy days. It is not that we have gotten older, but that we invest much more energy in the routine with the children.
You will become like your dad
You inevitably turn into your dad sometimes. Most men at their first experience as dads will automatically remind them of their own fathers. Since your child is born, a kind of sense of understanding grows, in which you begin to understand and remember your parents and everything that they went through with you.
And certainly, our children inherit things from us, so we will see how, without wanting to, we begin to respond to and speak to our children in the same way that our parents spoke to us. It is part of the heritage and values of the family that will be passed on to the next generations.
Children get into fights
It is not worth getting into fights between children. Nobody teaches us how to throw them out into the world and what to teaches them precisely. Commonly, children that get into conflicts are not always meant to turn into bullies. It’s your job, especially as a man, a dad, to educate them correctly.
Dads must motivate their children from an early age so that they can stay out of trouble and make an effort to educate them at home. However, it is not the dads’ task to educate other people’s children.
Let us remember that we cannot isolate kids from the real world, even if this world is sometimes a bit cruel, especially when it comes to kids.
A second child will teach you more lessons
With the second child, you realize that you were overly anxious the first time. This has happened to many parents.
It happens that after the second baby, you feel that if you could take the time back, you would worry much less and enjoy much more time playing with your first kid.
Nobody warns you that you should not worry so much, because being a new dad implies living those own experiences. Many people also say that children need extra care and every parent should take maximum care of them.
Running to the clinic for a little fever, or sterilizing bottles too often are very personal decisions for each parent, and only one realizes when time passes that some anguish was more imaginary than real.
Losing patience Is OK
Losing your patience is natural when you become a dad for the first time. Take a few deep breathes and calm down. Everyone tells you that being a parent is a roller coaster of incredible experiences, but few alert you to how sensitive one can be at certain times.
Really, the patience of a father is a time bomb ready to explode at any moment because a dad’s work never stops and his tolerance can be violated. So at any moment, they can explode.
That happens and it is fine for dads to lose patience. Only that men must be aware that should never turn into something more.
Accordingly, even though you lost your patience, try to calm down. Counting to ten, taking deep breathes, or turning your attention to something that soothes you are some of the things that you can do to chill.
Becoming a dad is great. Even though you will feel exhausted most of the time, you will still have time for yourself.
Also, educating your kids is an essential part of fatherhood, so do not evade from that. In the end, there many tips people tend to give you when you are becoming a dad, but most of the things that happen and how you will feel about them are for you to learn.