In any relationship, conflicts might show up. Some of them could be easy to solve but others might leave deep wounds. Most of these conflicts are caused by simple things but if they are not discussed properly they remain unsolved and they will burst when you least expect them to. In the following rows of this article, we will talk exactly about that.
I will try to give some tips on how you could solve and avoid certain discussions that in time could alter your relationship. I believe that I raised your interest, so you should continue your reading. This is about solving many stupid conflicts for good. You know that sometimes, small fights could turn into big ones. You certainly do not want that to happen.
You should always say in a direct way what is bothering you. If you try to subtle, your partner might not understand what is wrong. In fact, in most situations they do not understand what you try to tell them. You should also not avoid saying what bothers you exactly when that thing first happens. Why? Because if you delay the moment because you do not want to fight your partner will not know that it bothers you and he or she will keep on doing it until you burst. When you will burst, he or she will not understand why and it is only your fault.
It will be more honest of you to share your dissatisfaction regarding a certain thing when that thing happens. Like that, if your partner cares, will not repeat that thing again. Remember that people do not read minds, at least not usually.
Avoid the word never
Such generalities usually do not exist. “Never say never” is a phrase filled with truth. During a dispute, you should not use this word. If you start blaming your partner that he/she never does a certain thing you might be lying and he/she will know it. You lose the dispute from the start. Try to talk about your dislikes without blaming your partner.
One day you might be the one who does not do what you are blaming him/her of not doing. How would you feel is he/she will throw that into your face?
Stop digging graves
When you have a problem with a certain thing, stick to that thing. If you start digging graves, you might begin a real fight about something that happened a decade ago and your partner might not even know what you are talking about. If you follow the first advice that I gave you will never end up in such situations. You should discuss and not fight.
This way you will learn more one about the other and you will see if you are really able to make these small changes about yourself. Usually these types of discussions show up when two partners start living together. If such issues show up earlier than that, two things could happen. You might be more prepared to start a life with your partner or you could run before things will get more serious. Either way it will be more honest for both of you.
It is very important to listen. Sometimes, partners, to avoid a fight prefer to shut up and redirect their attention towards something else until the storm passes. This is not a solution. In most situations, your partner realizes that, and the intensity of the fight increases. If he/she does not realize it, it still does not solve the problem because you will not remember what was wrong and you might repeat that thing that led to that fight.
These are just a few tips on how you could avoid a fight or at least how you can solve your small issues. Remember that usually big fights come from small problems. Allow those problems to remain small by discussing them before they will disturb you or your partner too much.
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