Contrary to what some theories suggest, women prefer alpha males. The only thing that has changed is the definition of the alpha male. In the past, dominance and aggressiveness were key features. They suggested the man was powerful and able to protect his family in the harshest environments.
Men had to be tall, strong, physically fit. Their appearance mattered more than their personality. Today, the focus is more on self-confidence, ability to lead and provide for the family. Attitude matters more than appearance, although it isn’t everything, and accomplishments matter more than verbal claims.
Guide to become an alpha male
Women no longer want the big bad wolf who would win their heart by force. However, in their moments of weakness, they still need a pair of strong hands around them, a deep voice reassuring them everything would be alright, a warm look making them feel beautiful and desired.
They need to feel they have the power to awake a man’s deepest instincts and make him ignore reason for their sake. Of course, they should not have to give up their independence for that, and they should not be forced into anything they do not want to do. They just need to feel they can conquer powerful men, not necessarily physically, but intellectually and emotionally powerful.
Their alpha male would have to know when to listen and be able to accept their ideas, but also step in and take the lead, at least from time to time. Although most women want to have things done their way or receive support in all circumstances, they like to win that support.
Seriously, guys, we want equality, but with extra protection and care when we need it. We want to be able to make decisions, but next to a man who knows what he wants and how to get it, who doesn’t fall at our feet whenever we snap our fingers.
We want you to play hard to get and fall for us, but you still have to play hard to get from time to time, or we will lose interest. Sure, you should be loving and sensitive, but only to us, as if it were against your nature but you just can’t help it. We don’t like weak guys, vulnerable and easy to influence in all circumstances.
Yes, you should love your family, but go ahead and cut those ties to your mother. We need to feel we are the only ones that matter, not worry that you’ll listen to what your mom says or run to her whenever we say or do something you don’t like. Let us push you towards them and we will, but don’t make us feel we come second.
Finally, even after years of dating or marriage, we still want flowers, impressive gestures, and love statements. We still need to feel we can light up your fire and make you burn inside, despite the couple of wrinkles or extra pounds we may have gained. We need to feel you are with us by choice and feelings, not because you can’t get another woman or you’re too comfortable to try.
Questions to answer and corresponding steps to follow
It may seem tough, but you can do it! You can be an alpha male, and I’ll teach you how in the following lines. The whole lesson is structured around 5 questions and consequent steps to follow. The idea is to assess various aspects of your current situation and work on improving them. With them, you’ll also improve your statute as an alpha male. Contrary to what you may think, alpha males aren’t born. They are shaped and improved over time, by fate or by their own choices.
1. How self-confident are you?
It is difficult to be confident in the world we live in. People are superficial and judgmental, and if you’ve had the misfortune to see their dark side, you probably doubt your looks, skills, and ability to attain your goals. How often do you give up without trying, convinced that you would fail?
Well, if you continue with this attitude, chances are your looks, abilities, and accomplishments will suffer, and it would be a pity. You have to like yourself to make others like you, and you need to confide in your own skills and abilities before you convince others to do it.
You can start by making a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Focus on exploiting your strengths and eliminating your weaknesses. Remember that you are all you have, and you have nothing to lose. You can either trust what God gave you and you were able to achieve on your own, or you can continue to feel sorry for yourself and let life follow its course to no use.
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