Domination in bedroom can be an extremely pleasant experience if you and your partner want to try something new and agree on some rules together. Things can go crazy at any time, however, and therefore it would be advisable not to exceed certain limits.
It’s no mystery that many women like dominant men because they feel safe next to them and make them often feel more feminine. What you may not know though is that they are genetically programmed to respond positively to the stimuli that a man transmits.
The men have enough inner resources to protect women, and this causes women to secrete a hormone called oxytocin that makes them fall in love more easily and feel happier. The same is applicable to men.
But how to dominate in the bedroom? Which rules apply and how can you be the dominant figure during sex? In this article, dedicated to both men and women, we will show you how to dominate your partner.
How to dominate in the bedroom if you are a woman
If you have decided to tie your lover to your bed, avoid using silk scarves or other materials that can be difficult to untie. Try a thicker rope that can be easily untied, made of a material that will not hurt your partner.
Avoid any substance that could affect your thinking or delay your reactions, if you practice BDSM.
Try not to improvise, sex shops abound in special toys for such practices, made of the right materials and built in accordance with all safety rules. The purpose of BDSM practices is to both feel good and know pleasure, so don’t forget the intimate side of sex when you practice domination.
Avoid using too many sex toys at the same time, you will complicate your existence and you will not be able to enjoy pleasure. Limit yourself to 2-3 objects that will please both of you.
Our bodies react differently to stimuli. Learn to read the signals that your lover’s body sends you and to stop in time from what you are doing.
How to dominate in the bedroom if you are a man
If when you think about the idea of dominating a woman, all that comes to mind is how to bind her and sexually subject her to all sorts of perversions, you are most likely thinking only of a sexual niche that includes domination.
Being dominant in the first place is an attitude that you then turn into a behavior, and that starts from the first meeting.
A truly dominant man manages to convey confidence but at the same time enough self-confidence to make a woman follow him in his plans, even with a smile on his face.
First of all, as we mentioned, you need to be a confident, confident man. If you have emotions and feel lost when talking to a woman, it means you have to work on that first.
Second, from the beginning of your relationship, whatever its nature, you need to educate her so that she feels appreciated and validated when she does things for you the way you want. Every time she does things the way you want, validate her, tell her that you appreciate her so that she starts to feel good when she does various things for you.
- The man is sitting on his back with his legs bent. The woman sits with her back to him and the chest on his knees. Penetration is done from behind, while the woman holds his hands to his shins and move at will.
- Another sex position to dominate in the bedroom one in which he sits at the edge of the bed, with his legs pressed against the height of the bed, letting his fingertips touch the floor. You sit on his lap, your back to him, keeping your legs bent at his outer thighs. Next, all you have to do is lie on your back until you touch his chest. For extra effect, when you control the pace and depth of penetration, you can hold your ankles with your hands.
- If your bed has a sturdy headboard you can use it to dominate your lover. As he sits on his back and holds your buttocks, you face him, grabbing the headboard with both hands. He also places his feet on the surface of the bed, next to his hips. Thus, you have two points of support, the bed and the headboard, which help you to master it successfully.
In short, sex intercourse should be all about imagination to be successful for both genders. When it comes to how to be dominant in the bedroom, some rules should be discussed before the actual sex intercourse so that both partners will feel good.
Also, the before-mentioned sex positions make it easier for both men and women to be dominant in the bedroom even without using BDSM tools.