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Sexy Thoughts: The Mind Is Key in Female Orgasm

Diane Luke
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The Female Orgasm: The Mind Is The Key

Secrets of female orgasm are still of interest to both sexes, as long as it does not trigger as easily as the male orgasm.

There is a whole series of stimuli and psychological factors that contribute to the emergence of the feminine climax, from which derives the so many mysteries of the female orgasm manifestation.

While some women reach orgasm very easily, the majority of women find in reaching orgasm a difficult and tangled road, therefore reaching the peak of sexual pleasure becomes a hard to do task.

Sexual disaffection of women in intimacy comes largely from the desynchronization of physical and mental experiences with the partner. Only one stimulus (visual, mental, tactile or olfactory) is enough for men to awaken their libido and be prepared for sexual intercourse. Instead, women need a sustained physical and emotional stimulation to get sexual arousal, vaginal lubrication, and the proper mental mood, all of which are necessary to achieve orgasm.

Different types of stimulation and the female orgasm

The steps a woman has to go through for the maximum chances of having orgasm is the stage of prelude. Every good prelude minute prepares a woman to trigger the orgasm. The key elements of a successful prelude are:

  • Mental stimulation – compliments, exciting whispering, flavor candles, fresh flowers, aromatherapy, or romantic music in background provide absolute mental stimulation for women to achieve orgasm.
  • Tender stimulation – stimulating the touch senses creates sexual tension, very important in getting excitement in women. Embracing, caressing, lascivious massage, touching delicate body areas with fine materials, oral stimulation of the skin and other erogenous areas are increasingly approaching a woman to the climax.
  • Affection stimulation – kissing is essential to a successful prelude as it contributes both to the excitement of the physical and to the creation of an emotional connection with the partner. Kisses in hidden and unexpected areas of the body produce very pleasant sensations that intensify the initial pleasure.
  • Auditory stimulation – equally important for obtaining female orgasm is also the auditory stimulation. Hot and sensual voice, exciting words, and compliments can have a strong impact on the women’s libido, often even more significant than actual touches and body movements.

The stimulation of erogenous points and the female orgasm

There are two key areas on the female body, specifically dedicated to sexual pleasure. Their stimulation leads to orgasm, if done properly (lubrication, gradual increase of intensity, and persistent movements). These are:

  • Clitoris – a small organ with a concentration of nerve endings is found at the base of Venus Mountain above the urethra. The clitoris is covered with a layer of skin designed to protect it from over-stimulation, resulting in maximum discomfort and even pain. Excitation of the clitoris causes the skin to retract and swell in a form similar to the erection of the male sex organ.
  • G-Spot – even if there are still many controversies about the existence of the G-Spot, it is confirmed by many women who have gained an orgasm by stimulating it. G-Spot is also constituted by a build-up of nerve endings and is located on the upper wall of the vagina, about 5 centimeters away from the vagina.

Moreover, recent studies and surveys conducted on women have uncovered the fact that there many other erogenous areas on a woman’s body. While some of these erogenous areas are common to every woman, some are individual. Therefore, a woman might be aroused by tender touches on the lower back, while another might get excited by tender kissing on her knees.

The Female Orgasm: The Mind Is The Key

The new studies suggest that women’s minds and erotic thoughts are the ones that trigger orgasm, not a complicated position, or the partners abilities. Here’s how things are going!

Researchers at the Human Sexuality Research Laboratory at the University of Ottawa, Canada, have made a survey among women to find out why some of them reach orgasm during sexual intercourse and others have problems in this regard.

They split the respondents in two categories:

  • those that usually touch orgasm during sex
  • those experiencing difficulties

The researchers found that the women who often have climax during sex, are more alert to their body sensations and have more erotic thoughts than women who do not have orgasms.

Interesting is the fact that both groups think the same during masturbation.

Thus, study author Pascal De Sutter, a professor of sexology and family science at the University of Louvain, Belgium, said that the ties between mind and sex are more tighter than we have thought so far.

‘It seems that women have no problem paying close attention to their erotic thoughts when alone. But women who do not have regular orgasms when they have sex with their partner, have problems concentrating and do not get caught up in the moment’, De Sutter said.

Fortunately, it has been found that reaching orgasm can be learned over time. It seems that older women have fewer difficulties in achieving orgasm than younger ones. Thus, over time, they accumulate more experience and, implicitly, more enjoyment of their sexual life.

So, the sexual dissatisfaction of women in intimacy is caused largely by the desynchronization of physical and mental affections with their partner. Although, a single stimulus, either mental, visual, or tactile, is enough to be ready for action in men’s cases, in women there is necessary a sustained physical stimulation, but also an emotional stimulation, in order for them to obtain the sexual arousal and mental mood necessary for reaching the climax.

The Immaculate Orgasm

There is not anymore a mystery that the women’s minds play a huge role in reaching climax when having sex, but what about having an orgasm without even being touched?

Although it sounds like a fairy-tale, this kind of orgasm is real and it is called The Immaculate Orgasm.

In a study, a group of researchers analyzed the physical responses of women who claimed they could have orgasm just by thinking about it. They compared heart beat rhythm, blood circulation, pupil dilation, and pain threshold, which are the signs of orgasm, and found that the Immaculate Orgasm, or thought orgasm, is a real physical response.

Scientists are not sure how such an orgasm occurs but one thing is very clear, that the mind plays an extremely important role in the process of excitement, and when you think something, you can force yourself to feel that.

‘The brain sees and feels what we imagine’, explains doctor Daniel Amen. For example, when you are afraid, you feel that your hair is stained on your body, while, in reality, that’s just a sensation you perceive in your mind.

Immaculate Orgasm, or thought orgasm, can be a similar reaction. ‘By concentrating on how a normal orgasm feels, it is possible to experience that sensation with the mind , and that can be translated into a physical reaction’, says Lori Buckley, a psychologist and sexologist in Los Angeles.

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