When the baby is crying is one of the biggest challenges and one of the most difficult situations faced by parents. There’s a whole dispute over the baby’s crying. Is it good to let the little one cry or not? Some say it’s not OK, some say it’s more than OK. Let’s find out why it’s OK to let babies ‘cry it out’.
Baby’s cry is a dilemma that has sparked controversies. If you channel your attention to the debates on this issue, you may not have a lot to gain and learn. Of course, when your baby is crying, you should look for ways to give him comfort, since your child needs to calm down but, on the other hand, you shouldn’t be too protective with your baby.
Some people consider it a good thing to let your baby crying, and one of the arguments that backs up that belief is that according to which the crying helps the baby to develop healthy lungs. It is scientifically proven that there is a small piece of truth in this, but it wasn’t a topic of interest for more studies. Also, another popular belief is that the babies should be left to stand alone because otherwise when they grow up, will be dependent on their parents more than they should normally be.
These arguments do not really stand up, given that babies crying appear because of a variety of reasons, and the little ones are asking their parents for something when they cry or communicate a problem through crying. The baby may cry from boredom, hunger, because of his wet, because of a stomach pain, fear, and so forth.
There are many specialized books that offer explanations and solutions for babies cry. The first direction that is given to the parents is to let their baby to cry, to allow them to develop their communication skills, even though we’re talking about a non-verbal communication.
In this direction, there are offered many solutions for the parents who want to teach their baby how to calm down and replace the crying with pointing. Of course, this solution is applicable for babies older than 6 months and it also depends on their grade of development. In some cases, some babies develop slower.
The second direction that is given by the specialized books is the one that says that a baby should be quiet when he starts to cry for demanding something from his parents. The attention received from the parents provide a good parents-child connection and helps the child to understand that it is better to cry only when he has a good reason for that, so the parents could know that their baby needs comfort, food, a new diaper, or he’s cold or too hot, and so forth.
For a baby who’s very dependent on his mother and father, those may not be the best methods. For a regular baby, however, consider that the support and attention given in the first months of his life, these methods help the child to develop and to later acquire independence.
Some parents wonder if it is wrong to leave the baby cry for a few minutes while they are busy with other activities in the house or with dinner preparation. Not necessarily, because many babies cry even after being hugged.
Parents must keep in mind that the cry of a baby is the only way to express himself. Parents who have a very close relationship with their children or spend a lot of time in their company will be able to detect different types of crying and what each means.
Crying has a psychological role, as an emotional release. If you’re trying to make a baby stop crying every time, the baby will learn that crying is an unacceptable act, no matter what, say some psychologists. And such a conviction can affect them in their adulthood because they will not be able to release by crying all the negative energies accumulated.
Most parents would take any measure to get even one night of uninterrupted sleep for their baby, and some experts recommend that the baby should be left to cry alone in order to settle down.
How healthy is this method, anyway?
In a recent article in Psychology Today, a researcher says that this method can be dangerous for children, and will follow him for a lifetime.
In prehistoric times, if a baby was crying, it could attract predators. Since the parental practice evolved, parents should calm their baby’s anxiety episodes, and exclude crying, except in emergency situations. At least, that’s what the professor of psychology at the University of Notre-Dame, Darcia Narvaez thinks.
When babies are stressed, their bodies release a hormone called cortisol, which can hurt, or even kill neurons in their developing brain, found researchers at Yale University and those from the Faculty of Medicine, at Harvard. This can lead to an increased risk of ADHD, poor school performance, and antisocial tendencies.
In this case, parents must eliminate the stress factors, not the crying itself because believe it or not, by crying the baby is eliminating the negative energies accumulated and stress.
Babies are scheduled to be constantly held in arms, to be breastfed, and taken care of, as soon as their body needs to develop the right brain hemisphere.
Dr. Richard Ferber, inventor of the method to teach your child to sleep through the night letting it cry until it calms down alone, recognizes that parents should not completely ignore the cries of babies.
Ferber encourages parents to teach their babies to calm themselves when they wake up during the night because of the usual reasons, such as hunger, too cold or too hot, or a bad dream.
Not all crying that occur at night and can be triggered by stress factors. This type of crying, which is completely different from the usual crying types, if does not receive an adequate response from the parent, can lead to a lifetime of problems related to stress, anxiety, reduced brain function, and lack of independence.
As a parent is your responsibility to read books and learn how different types of crying sound like and what do they mean, so you’ll be ready to make the difference between those and abnormal crying which can mean that your baby is stressed, thus, avoiding risks of an abnormal development of your baby.
Why it’s OK to let babies ‘cry it out’? Crying helps them eliminating negative energies, is developing healthy lungs, helps them learning to build different bridges in the communication with their parents, and is the only way they can express themselves until they’ll learn the verbal communication.